There is one thing in the world which surprises me a lot. It’s been surprising me for years. It’s a very common human tendency to think that our own beliefs are absolute truth not only for our own life but for everyone around. And then we start fighting, dividing others into stupid and wise and dividing things into idiotic and those which are OK. The criterion is one – the one and only wisdom. The wise are those who think like you. The stupid are those who think differently. Some people are ready to give their life for what they think. Or even kill someone for what they believe. Or at leas name him “stupid”.
I think that we forget about two important things.
Even your absolute truth is changeable
We don’t even notice that our beliefs change with time – they can’t be an absolute truth even for our own life, let alone the rest of the world. New experiences shape your views and beliefs and… the new ones become your new “absolute truth”.
The second thing which we don’t notice is a very simple fact – everything which you think or believe in is just a resultant of all your life experiences. Not an absolute truth.
Truth according to the others
Whereas life experiences have a very important characteristic. Everyone has different ones. Is it that difficult? You think and feel and react in your special way because your individual experience shaped you. The “stupid” (in your opinion) walked a different way, you weren’t in his shoes. Even if his way was similar to yours, it doesn’t matter. It’s enough that he experienced one very strong situation which changed his emotions and thoughts. Now you don’t understand him. Instead of asking, you prefer to call him “stupid”.
What can we do then in this chaos of thoughts and views? What can we do to become a little bit more humble? There is one fascinating way, full of surprises and extraordinary people. In this way it’s all about leaving your comfort zone. Looking for those who are “different”. But not in order to illuminate them with your wisdom, but to get to u n d e r s t a n d them. Wait a minute, let’s have a cup of tea and just talk to me. Tell me something about you. Without struggling and fighting about beliefs, long discussions and negative emotions. It’s not easy, of course. You will expose yourself to some uncomfortable moments, someone may step on your toes. But take it easy. Let’s treat is as a new lesson of listening. Opening oneself for extraordinary inspiration.